Like millions of Americans, I entered marriage with a ready-made family—a job for which I was woefully prepared. My drinking, partying and other self-centered pursuits didn’t blend too well with the demands of marriage and instant fatherhood. Conflict and problems that arose with my stepson’s drug use brought me to a stark realization: I wasn’t doing such a hot job of running my life.
Our situation started deteriorating after we moved to the Denver, Colorado area. As this turmoil reached a peak, we sought help from a man at the church we attended occasionally. As a reformed drug dealer, we assumed he would have the answers. When we asked what we could do to help our son, he replied, “You can’t do anything. But God can do everything. And the best thing you can do is get right with God.”
Those words pierced my heart. Two days later, that man and his wife prayed with me in our living room. I admitted I had made a mess of my life. I asked Christ to forgive me and pledged to change the way I was living and follow Him for the rest of my life. A peace filled me as a weight dropped off my shoulders.
To many, “faith” is a cliché and synonymous with “narrow-minded, judgmental bigot.” To me, it is the lifeline that brought us through adversity and tragedy. Setbacks like the death of our parents, battles with cancer and heart disease, and the death of our second-oldest daughter. In November of 2017, an accidental fall broke a bone in my left hand and caused a moderate concussion, which created challenging circumstances for many weeks.
Despite life’s hazards and uncertainties, we know the joy of a restored family, a long-lasting marriage, and the solutions that God brings into seemingly-impossible dilemmas. We trust in Him to provide for our needs and guide us through life. I am still excited about what God has done in my life. At an age when many are looking to retire (or already have), I am looking forward to crafting more stories about the Lord’s work in this world.